“Be, think, do: positive” is one of my mantras in life. I even keep it as a tag line above my desk to spread the merry message to the students and staff who visit me in the office everyday.
“Be happy”… Another little mantra I often repeat to myself and to others. Don’t aspire to be rich, don’t aspire to be the biggest, the best, have the bigger house or the sportier car. Aspire to be happy and everything else you need will come. I do believe that if you have a positive, happy outlook then you are in control of your destiny. You will get there in the end because you learn to see that happiness can be found in the simplest of things… A kind word from a stranger, a mug of cocoa and a roaring fire, a passing observation that makes you smile. It can happen anytime if you are happy. If you are depressed or down you become narcissistic in your outlook. You can only see your own problems in everything and everything you see reminds you of your problems.
Happiness cannot be bought, no amount of money will make up for that. It can however, be shared amongst friends, family and strangers. You don’t need blood lines to pass on the happy vibe.
The more you share your happiness… Even if you are not sure what it is that is making you happy… The more people see you as a happy, shiny person the more they love you for it and the happier you become. It is a win-win situation.
So if you’re stuck in the narcissistic “life is so tough for me” zone at the moment listen up. Life throws curve balls to make you a stronger person. Embrace your situation. Rather than questioning “why me?”, ask yourself “what can I do to change my situation?” Or “what can I learn from this”.
You soon find that you answer your own problems and develop the courage to move on… You might also find yourself just a teenier bit happier for it.
Finally, “be thankful”… Whatever life throws at you, once you come through it, be thankful for the experience. It has made you a stronger person. I’ve experienced traumas in my time and recently a heartbreak from hell… But I’ve recently come to accept that they have helped shape who I am today. I can use my experiences to help others and for that, you guessed it. I am thankful.